Goodbye. Hasta Luego. Sayonara. Don’t let the door hit ya, where the good Lord

split ya.


There are a few more sayings we could throw at 2020. It is unreal that we are

actually in the new year. Did last year even begin?


As I leaf through the pages of my planner it’s clear that my written-out goals for

2020 (made in the hopeful part of early January) were not reached. All the events,

all the excursions, the vacations, the dinners, the parties…they blew up in smoke.


What an awful year, right? Devastation, a pandemic, civil unrest, hurt, anger, loss…


But is that all to remember about 2020? I don’t know about you, but I don’t want

the painful events of last year to mar my view of 2020. Because, you know what?

There were also a ton of things to be proud of in 2020. New businesses were

launched. Immediate families spent more time together. Extended families learned

to appreciate phone calls and video chats more than ever. Creativity and ingenuity

were more heavily utilized. True heroes were recognized. We became more

resourceful. We found the need to clearly delineate boundaries on “friends” from

social media, learning to sometimes “snooze” or “unfollow” them. The cream rose

to the top and we saw the true characters of people more clearly. We learned to

appreciate things we once took for granted, like toilet paper. We became more

aware of the fragility of life and the need to truly live every moment–perhaps in

memory of those we lost during such a devastating year.


There is no promise that 2021 is going to wash away the negative memories of

  1. But I know for a fact that when generations to come learn about the events of

this last year they will appreciate the resiliency of their ancestors.


This year, in lieu of resolutions, I am practicing presence and compassion. I will live

each day the best I can. I will wake up with energy and hope, and go to bed with

peace and gratefulness. I will extend compassion to those who lost, who struggle,

and even those who spewed hate. I will remember that each of us experienced the

events of this last year through a different lens–we each walked in different shoes.


This month we celebrate a man who lived through tremendous adversity. Though,

at the time, it may have looked different than it does in 2020, this man understood

that the power of an individual, in their daily attitude and behaviors, could change

the world.

“Darkness cannot drive out darkness: only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out

hate: only love can do that.”

–Martin Luther King, Jr.